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"My Thoughts"
 

The Problem With Porn and Love

In the beginning porn too easily stimulates

 but it never lasts - because it can't - it eventually becomes boring and that's the addictive hook.

One big question: If porn has taken on an addictive quality - then why does this keep pulling me back to it?

It becomes boring over a short period of time -  because there is no real emotional passion

- there's no real boy/girl dynamic in play.

When sex and especially porn is used as a way of dealing with conflicted feelings - then it has become a vehicle to meet frustrated emotional needs - and not a source of genuine, lasting good feelings about oneself.

                     The Reality of Love
  • This a partial roadmap to a healthy intimate and compatible relationship (the rest of the map will come later).

  •  You can't love what you do not value.

  • You can't value what you do not know.

  • You can't know without listening.

  • You can't listen if you really only hear yourself.

 

The Ghosts We Live With 

     

Actual ghosts come from our past and their oxygen is when we feel not heard or when we question ourselves or anticipate abandonment or criticism or judgment. All too often, these ghosts undermine the  good feelings we have of ourselves and often, even our relationships.

And that's when our past shows up being way too strong and undermines our ability - to be at peace with ourselves - which is both a spiritual and a psychological goal for all of us.

The Reality of
Narcissists
 
Eighty percent of those who are genuine narcissists live with deep, strong, major league insecurities. That's a fact!
  • Most people labeled "narcissist" are actually borderline personalities or just self-absorbed and emotionally immature.

  • The key part to a narcissist is their pattern of being vindictive. They have a strong need to hurt anyone who disagrees or fails to adore them - and it's not just due to a moment of frustration. A real narcissist will plot, plan and wait to hurt others. 

  • Why is this important? Because you see this in personal relationships, business relationships and especially in politics!

© 2025 by Dr Chandler Welch

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