"My Thoughts"
The Problem With Porn and Love
In the beginning porn too easily stimulates
but it never lasts - because it can't - it eventually becomes boring and that's the addictive hook.
One big question: If porn has taken on an addictive quality - then why does this keep pulling me back to it?
It becomes boring over a short period of time - because there is no real emotional passion
- there's no real boy/girl dynamic in play.
When sex and especially porn is used as a way of dealing with conflicted feelings - then it has become a vehicle to meet frustrated emotional needs - and not a source of genuine, lasting good feelings about oneself.
The Reality of Love
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This a partial roadmap to a few basics for a realistic approach to a strong and healthy intimate relationship (the rest of the map will come later).
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You can't actually love what you do not value.
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You can't value what you don't know about the other person.
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You can't know without listening.
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You can't listen if you really only hear yourself.
The Reality of
Narcissists
Eighty percent of those who are genuine narcissists live with deep, strong, major league insecurities. That's a fact!
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Most people labeled "narcissist" are actually borderline personalities or just self-absorbed and emotionally immature.
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The key part to a narcissist is their pattern of being vindictive. They have a strong need to hurt anyone who disagrees or fails to adore them - and it's not just due to a moment of frustration. A real narcissist will plot, plan and wait to hurt others.
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Why is this important? Because you see this in personal relationships, business relationships and especially in politics!